How do you heal?
Unfortunately...sometimes you don't.
What is your second step to bring it all back onto an even keel?
The first is? Wanting
to come back? Or actually coming
back? I apologize if I sound confused here (Note: I don't know who you are, or what your backstory is, so I don't mean to sound sarcastic).
Mushing is... well... both incredibly difficult and extremely rewarding. It's a social experience regardless of the fiction-writing, regardless that IC does not equal OOC and yadda, yadda, yadda. Despite that, friends are made and, sadly, vice-versa.
You may have done nothing more than watch from a distance as others imploded and things fizzled. But if stuff went kaput, if you were part of that and if you burnt your bridges behind you (with people) in the past, well... people tend to stick around - whether in their original characters or via alts. If they were aware and remember, they'll remember.
There are always
two sides to every story, of course, but if the above is the case, then simply breezing back (to the same game) without attempting to reach out and attempt to reconcile things probably
won't help you in your healing process. Healing, as you put it, is a two-way street (unless you're coming back to avoid, well, everyone who might
have made things go topsy-turvy for you) and if you aren't interested in reaching out to whomever, then well, your question about healing is basically irrelevant.
IMO, what Mavrick said in his (or her) post http://forum.pernmu.com/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=924
was pretty much the answer to the question you ask (and to be clear, I don't know Mavrick). Reach out, seek reconciliation, forgive others, express your own fault - if any - let it go and start over. You don't see that very often on these games. It's rare and it takes courage because sometimes people aren't
willing to accept that.
But sometimes... they ARE
Reconciliation is a risk. Huh. Just like Real Life -imagine that!!!
I do hope 'healing' happens for you. A sincere good luck to you and please do post how it works out. You might just encourage a badly-needed shift in the mindset of mushing.