Toe, I ain't gonna lie, I couldn't follow your reply all that well (sinus medicine f's with my head...) So if this is redundant, I apologize. ;p
The point of the matter regarding the whole situation, I suppose, was that I speaking "like a man" instead of "like a girl" and it unsettled them. I told the situation that I was in with no remorse, said /what mistakes I made/, and then what I had done to correct them, and how the end result, I believed, was a good one. But I asked them, if they had been in that situation-- since many of them have much more experience in life in total than I do-- what they would have done. It wasn't sarcastic. I wasn't being sardonic. I was just asking what else I could have done, so if I find myself in a situation similar to it in the future, I can troubleshoot my way through it with more than just my prior experience in it.
And I guess they took offense at a girl (I'm probably young enough to be some of their daughters) with more status/gets paid more money/etc etc. I deliberately had not said anything on this forum prior, regarding my sex or age, but unfortunately it was part and parcel of the story.
I dunno. I know how to handle car guys, typically. I know more than most of them-- I work in a service department, and I was raised by car people. I'm marrying a finance director. It's not a big deal to me; it's just my career. It's not my life. I was just stung, I guess, because I came to them "like a guy" and they treated me like a girl... because trust me, a guy would not have had the responses that I had.
It hurt. That's all. I'm over it now. And I know better than to do something like that again. They taught me not to trust anyone but my friends with stuff like that, even though it makes me twitch to say it. Oh well.
PS-- regarding people going into bankrupcy/hardship times and *not willing to get a job*... GOD do I feel for anyone having to put up with people like that. I know exactly how frustrating it gets. -.- They're all just whiny bitches, who expect a handout and have never had to stand on their own feet.